When we talk about cheating in a marriage, it’s often assumed that the man is the one doing the cheating. While this is generally true, it is also possible for women to cheat. A study indicated that about 20% of married women cheat. And just like men, they often cite dissatisfaction in their relationship as a primary cause for cheating. Unlike men, fewer women feel the need to cheat when they’re in a happy relationship – 34% of women who cheated noted that they were in a happy marriage. Around 56% of cheating men described their marriage as happy.
This means that if your relationship is troubled, you may feel the need to get a private investigator to investigate your partner’s actions. There’s actually a chance that your suspicions are correct. However, knowing the cause of why women cheat can help you prevent cheating by fixing the underlying issues in your relationship.
The following are some of the main reasons that women cheat:
Emotional satisfaction – Generally, women crave emotional fulfillment more than men. They are also more open about discussing it than men – which can often cause an issue when men try to avoid the discussion or totally ignore their wife’s emotional needs. Women like to feel appreciated, to be told that they’re beautiful and desirable. Just because you’re married and/or have kids doesn’t mean that the romance is dead or that you can just ignore each other.
If she doesn’t feel that you appreciate her or validate her actions and effort, she may just fall for the colleague, friend, or even neighbor who does.
Spend some quality time together; talk like you did before you got married. If you have kids, leave them with a relative or babysitter so you can have a date night. Give words of appreciation when she fulfills her goals or did some task she’s proud of. Congratulate her and celebrate any promotions, birthdays, and other important event. Act as if you would when you were still wooing her.
Sexual satisfaction – Women also like to have sex. Unlike men who tend to objectify a sexual encounter, women tend to focus on the emotional and relationship part of sex. It’s one way to show intimacy. If the amount of sex has decreased, it can be interpreted that you’ve lost interest in her and don’t find her attractive any more. This can lead to seeking validation from outside the marriage that she is desirable.
If she’s the one who is shying away from sex, try to find her reasons and have an honest discussion. You can then both work on a solution together.
Falling out of love – When women cheat, it’s often something that develops over time. Feelings of loneliness and neglect, under-appreciation, lack of validation from their spouse, abuse and mistreatment can all contribute to a woman falling out of love. They slowly start confiding in others, seeking validation and appreciation outside the marriage. This can develop into intimacy and romantic feelings and a full-fledged affair. Some women would even seek an affair not because they fell in love with someone else, but they just want to escape their marriage – hoping their husband will be the one to end it.
This is harder to reverse and may get to a point that the best option will be to end the marriage. The best way to prevent this is to keep her loving you. A good rule to follow is to fall back on the things you did right when you were still dating. Always show her that you love her and give her a reason to keep falling in love with you.