As the mother of the bride or groom at a wedding, you have a very important role. You may be asked to escort your child down the aisle or you may be escorted in by one of the groomsmen. What your exact role will be is determined by the type of wedding your child decides to have. What you should wear will also be determined by the style, time and location of the wedding.
Mother of The Bride
If your daughter has chosen a formal wedding theme and location, then it is likely that you will be wearing a long, formal dress. Most bridal shops will have sections where these types of dresses are offered. If all the bridesmaids are wearing short, cocktail-style dresses, you may also choose to wear a short dress, and there are always some very dressy pants suits available if you are not comfortable wearing a dress.
As the mother of the bride, it is traditional for you to choose the color of your dress first before the mother of the groom chooses hers. When deciding on a color, it is important to keep the colors of the d?cor and the attendants’ gowns in mind. While it is appropriate to choose a color which is in the same family, it is not a good idea to try to match the color of the attendants. As the mother, you have a special role and it is wise to choose a color that will make you stand out in a good way.
You can choose to wear a hat but it is not necessary unless it is expected in the religious tradition that your wedding will follow. Since you will be walking down the aisle, chose heels that you can walk on, and shoes should be comfortable enough to stand in all day if necessary. This is your daughter’s day; it is not the time to try to outshine her. You want to look good but not overdone.
Traditionally, the mother of the groom should wait until the mother of the bride has chosen her dress and the color of her dress. Good taste dictates that the dresses should not be the same nor should the color be exactly the same. Unless there is a problem with communication, this should not be an issue since there are literally thousands of dresses to choose from. It is certainly acceptable to go dress shopping early and come up with some ideas about the style of dress that you prefer and what is flattering to your figure.
The same basic rules prevail: Choose a dress that fits the time of day and formality of the wedding. If you can, it is a good idea to get your future daughter in-law involved. This will help to set the stage for future relations between you and her. If you haven’t heard from the mother of the bride, it is perfectly acceptable to contact her about her dress choice. Wedding wear is an important part of this day.
A wedding is a wonderful occasion and as the mother of the bride or groom, you play an important role in this event in the life of your child. If you are in doubt about how to dress, talk to your child and to a bridal consultant, as they can help you to make a perfect choice.
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