Is It Ok To Have An Opinion About Gay Marriage, Either Way?

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I almost didn’t write this article.  This subject is such a hotbed of drama and contention right now, I hesitated to get involved.  However, something happened yesterday and as much as I tried to put it out of my mind, I just couldn’t.  It demanded to be written about. 

I was reading my Facebook wall yesterday afternoon, just taking a break from writing in my blog, and I ran across a picture that said something like “I do not support gay marriage,” preceded by a few sentences about why they did not support it due to religious/biblical reasons.   It kind of surprised me because most people wouldn’t post such an inflammatory thing on their wall and the following $#[email protected] of comments was a perfect example of why.  Five comments calling her names.  Four comments accusing her of being homophobic. Two comments accusing her of being a closet lesbian.  Three comments about how it had been proven that God does not condemn the gay lifestyle and last but not least SEVEN people stating they were unfriending the poster.

I just sat their in awe.  Just because they did not agree with her opinion on gay marriage, is that a reason to cut her out of their life? Some would say that the issue was important enough to do so.  Well, if that is the case, then what is the line you have to cross to make it ok to demean people or unfriend them?  What if she posted that Obama was the antichrist?  Would that qualify an unfriending?  What if she posted that every woman that weighed over 125 pounds was lazy and disgusting?  Would that qualify for unfriending…..or maybe nothing that drastic, maybe just calling her a few derogatory names?  What if she said she hated cheesecake, wait, that is just crazy, no one hates cheesecake………but if they did, is that bad enough to deserve being deleted?

The point I am trying to make is that this is America, everyone is supposed to have the right to state their opinion, even if it is unpopular.  If you don’t agree with it, that’s okay, but is it a reason to cut someone out of your life?  Is that a reason to hate them?  Does it justify demeaning them by calling them names and hurling baseless accusations?

I was ashamed of the people that wrote those comments.  They have forgotten that this is a country of free speech, and we all have the right to express our beliefs and opinions.  If you don’t agree, then exercise your same freedom to rebut their statements, but in a civilized manner.  We all should have left the name calling and the taking our ball and going home mentality back in grade school.

Now, I don’t want to give the wrong impression. I don’t agree with what this woman wrote, however a wise man once said something that I strongly agree with:




  I do not agree with what you have to say,

  but I will defend to the death, your right to say it






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  1. Amanda Thomas

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