Finding out you are pregnant with another child is exciting (assuming you wanted to be pregnant with a second child anyway). Until you find yourself in the situation, most parents do not give much thought about what kind of impact having a second child has on the first child. Once you have a couple children adding a third and fourth one to the mix is not really as big of a deal as that second child is. This isn’t because the children become less significant. This is just because all of the children you have now are used to sharing you with another child. When you have your first child they are not sharing you with anyone they get all of your attention all of the time. It can be hard for them to cope with sharing you with a second person.
Breaking the News
Deciding when you break the news to your child really depends on how old your child is. If your child is less than four, you might want to wait until you are in your last trimester. Younger children do not really understand how time passes and telling them too soon is just going to confuse them. One really helpful thing you can do is connecting when the child is born to something that they understand. Telling them that their new brother or sister will be home in time for Christmas is something that even a young child could understand.
Break out the Baby Book
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Break out your child’s baby book and show them pictures of how things were when they first came into the world. It helps if you tell them stories so they know what to expect. Obviously you should make sure everything you tell them is age appropriate. Letting them see pictures and hear stories can help them grasp a better understanding of what is happening.
You have to take extra care to make sure your child does not feel ignored as their new sibling enters this world. You do not want the start of their sibling relationship to be filled with hatred and jealousy. You need to do what you can to make their new sibling coming into the world be as exciting for them as it is for you. This is going to make things a lot easier on you in the long run. Just remember to continue to give them some one-on-one time with you that they have gotten used to over the years as well.
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