With so many individuals lacking the support of good parents when they grow up, all too often when they enter into adulthood they find themselves lacking confidence. When this happens, you can easily struggle with making good decisions and building the type of life you really want.
Whether its getting a good job, attracting an ideal mate, making enough money, or having great health, self confidence plays a vital role in creating the type of future you really desire. In fact, a recent study has shown that not only can it affect your life, but others as well because individuals who lack confidence can become bullies to try and make themselves feel better.
In the report, Mark Tyrrell, co-author of the Self Confidence Trainer, stated this:
“Research has found that people with genuine low self-esteem tend to treat themselves badly not other people. Stopping people being bullies by trying to lift their self-esteem may be like trying to get an obese person to lose weight by feeding them lots more cake.
In the 1980s there was a movement to raise self esteem in schools in the belief that this would stop bullies bullying and prevent future crime in society. But peer-reviewed research has shown schools trying to raise self esteem don’t prevent bullies bullying (because low self esteem wasn’t causing them to bully).”
So many people have asked if there is an easy solution to this dilemma and many have suggested that it would be wise to find a life coach who can help you build your self-esteem. Coaches are not like therapists or counselors where they listen to your problems. They take a proactive role as a mentor to help you grow as a person and build more confidence by providing words of encouragement and inspiration.
In recent years, the life coaching industry has been growing by leaps and bounds as many see the impact it has been having in peoples lives. Even people such as Oprah has sought the support of a coach. Martha Beck was recently interviewed on the Huffington Post and said this about what she does:
“Coaching is not like school, and it’s not like therapy.” I was all ears as Beck started the session. “It’s a conversation between equals,” she explained, “where one person volunteers to be a leader by serving the other’s life quest for truth.”
For those who are turned off or skeptical about psychotherapy, this seems to be a breath of fresh air and this approach is the antithesis of how traditional talk therapy works where it almost feels as though you are made to feel guilty about your decisions in life whereas coaching is more about creating what you want.
If you are lacking self-confidence then this can be a great way to boost your self-esteem.